There are moments when I know something is over, but I don’t feel it yet.
A job. A friendship. A chapter of life that’s clearly wrapped up. The logic is sound. The decision is done. I’ve even written it down. But the emotional shift lags behind. The old behaviours persist. I still check in. I still wait. I still flinch at moments that should no longer matter.
It’s like my internal state is running on a delayed clock.
That delay isn’t failure. It’s a signal.
Because thinking moves fast. Feeling doesn’t. Understanding a situation isn’t the same as metabolising it. And in any complex system, biological or digital,asynchronous states are normal.
We want everything to sync. But sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do is let the lag exist. Don’t rush it. Don’t patch over it. Don’t treat your emotions like a broken cache that needs invalidating.
Let them catch up in their own time.
Because eventually, they will. And when they do, the system resolves. Not because you forced it, but because you waited long enough to believe what you already knew.